Isaiah 49: 1b – The LORD called Me from the womb; From the body of My mother He named Me.
One of the things that I learned long ago, is that God calls us to love people, not to judge them. He is the one who judges, not us. As I write this piece on abortion, please know that I would never pretend to know what leads a particular mother to the point of making a decision to abort her child and that I would never want to judge her for that decision. I leave that solely to God. I do know that all life is precious to me and that I would want to do anything I can to help someone make the choice to allow their baby to come to full life. Perhaps some people can take this lightly, but I cannot. Life is a precious gift and I think that built in to every woman is that desire to nurture life. To go against that instinct to nurture, by deciding to have an abortion, must be a most terrifying decision. I could only imagine that the mother has to be in a very difficult situation to make that decision. I would think that she has lost all hope in what the immediate future has for her. As Christians, we need to help women put in to that predicament.
One time, a woman that I knew, come up to me and asked me why I was always smiling and always so happy. I told her that it was because I believed in a God who loved me, gave me hope and forgave me. She said that she found it hard to believe in a God like that. She had lived a very difficult life and it was only recently that she had been able to come out of those difficulties. A few days after our initial encounter, she asked to speak to me in private. We talked for a while and she told me that she didn’t think that God could forgive her. I asked her why she thought that. She told me that she had an abortion when she was quite young and that it had plagued her with guilt ever since. She told me that she couldn’t forgive herself, so how could God forgive her? I felt really bad for this woman, and the pain that she had held on to for over twenty years. She had been away from the Church for quite some time, but was just now coming back. I asked her to speak to a priest about forgiveness and receiving the Sacrament of Reconciliation. I also hooked her up with a local organization that gave counseling to women who have had abortions. Fortunately, she took me up on my advice and responded well and the change in her gives new meaning to the phrase, “born again”.
For those of us who see abortion as something quite wrong, I believe that we can help to prevent it by working exactly where we are, with the people that are around us. This could be family, friends, co-workers, etc. If we reflect a sense of HOPE, and people can see the joy that God gives us, they will come to us. I also think that we need to ask God to put us in the right place to try to help someone make the right decision, that is, to give life to their child. God can use us to help those around us. The personal touch is so much better than anything else.
There is no doubt in my mind that abortion victimizes the mother, as well as the baby. I have seen too many people suffer from the choice they made to have an abortion. Besides hurting the individual mothers, I believe that abortion greatly hurts society in general. We have lost about 56 million lives to abortion since the Supreme Court decision (compare this to 1,354,664 total deaths in ALL the wars we have fought since we became a nation). I can’t help but to wonder if we killed off the person who would have found a cure to cancer, or other terrible diseases. What if we lost another Beethoven, or Tolkien or……. We really do not know. Besides that, I think that Mother Teresa was correct in stating that abortion is a disrupter of the peace, especially of this nation. She said, “America needs no words from me to see how your decision in Roe v. Wade has deformed a great nation. The so-called right to abortion has pitted mothers against their children and women against men. It has sown violence and discord at the heart of the most intimate human relationships. It has aggravated the derogation of the father’s role in an increasingly fatherless society. It has portrayed the greatest of gifts — a child — as a competitor, an intrusion, and an inconvenience. It has nominally accorded mothers unfettered dominion over the independent lives of their physically dependent sons and daughters” . She continues, “And, in granting this unconscionable power, it has exposed many women to unjust and selfish demands from their husbands or other sexual partners. Human rights are not a privilege conferred by government. They are every human being’s entitlement by virtue of his humanity. The right to life does not depend, and must not be declared to be contingent, on the pleasure of anyone else, not even a parent or a sovereign.” (Mother Theresa — “Notable and Quotable,” Wall Street Journal, 2/25/94, p. A14).
For me, the problems we have with the huge number of abortions are because so many people lack hope and cannot find peace. We must do all in our power to bring hope to people. We need to help people rise out of the curse of poverty and find hope no matter what their station in life is. We need to stand up for the unborn child who is totally helpless in defending themselves. We need to stand up for the right of all peoples to have life. We hear the call that “black lives matter”. What I find so upsetting is that according to the Alan Guttmacher Institute, black women are more than 5 times as likely as white women to have an abortion. On average, 1,876 black babies are aborted every day in the United States. This is nearly four times the rate of white children. Margaret Sanger, the founder of Planned Parenthood, the largest provider of abortions in the country, referred to blacks and other minorities as “…human weeds,’ ‘reckless breeders,’ ‘spawning… human beings who never should have been born.” Margaret Sanger, Pivot of Civilization. She also said, “We do not want word to go out that we want to exterminate the Negro population,” Woman’s Body, Woman’s Right: A Social History of Birth Control in America, by Linda Gordon. Planned Parenthood seems to be doing that now through abortion and birth control measures. Our society seems to be ignoring this terrible race discrimination. As Christians, we recognize that all people are equal in the eyes of God. We are all His children. Planned Parenthood is quickly eliminating God’s children, both black and white, but with a very unequal rate against blacks. This has to stop.
I would like to share another quote from Mother Teresa. She gave this at the 1994 National Prayer Breakfast, in front of then President Bill Clinton and his wife Hillary. She said, “But I feel that the greatest destroyer of peace today is abortion, because it is a war against the child, a direct killing of the innocent child, murder by the mother herself. And if we accept that a mother can kill even her own child, how can we tell other people not to kill one another? How do we persuade a woman not to have an abortion? As always, we must persuade her with love and we remind ourselves that love means to be willing to give until it hurts. Jesus gave even His life to love us. So, the mother who is thinking of abortion, should be helped to love, that is, to give until it hurts her plans, or her free time, to respect the life of her child. The father of that child, whoever he is, must also give until it hurts. By abortion, the mother does not learn to love, but kills even her own child to solve her problems. And, by abortion, the father is told that he does not have to take any responsibility at all for the child he has brought into the world. That father is likely to put other women into the same trouble. So abortion just leads to more abortion. Any country that accepts abortion is not teaching its people to love, but to use any violence to get what they want. This is why the greatest destroyer of love and peace is abortion.”
So what are we to do? First of all, pray for all those women who are considering an abortion. Second, be open to “ministering” to those around you who may be considering abortion. Third, pray that the Lord will lead you to what you can do. I would highly suggest checking out the work of two people that I admire because they treat with dignity the women looking for abortion, as well as the abortion workers. The first is Abby Johnson. I would consider her book “Unplanned” as required reading. Abby has a website: http://abbyjohnson.org. The other is Sean Carney who runs 40 Days for Life. His website can be found at: 40daysforlife.com. God bless you and may the Life God gives us always be protected and respected.