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SHARON by Kevin Williams written 11/22/20

Fifteen years ago, Today, the Love of my Life died of cancer.

On the evening of Sharon’s death, I was all alone except a friend who came over, probably for suicide watch. We were in my shop when I had my first experience of the odor of Sanctity. The shop completely and instantly filled up with the scent of the most beautiful, Heavenly perfume I’ve ever smelled. I kept asking my friend if he could smell it but he couldn’t. I even went outside and walked all around the shop to see if I could discover it’s source. It was several months later I gave my Life to the Lord and He delivered me from an 18 year meth addiction. I had not yet even heard of the phenomenon of the Odor of Sanctity but I had a conviction I had a Heavenly visitor that night.

About six months later I wept all over a mountain side that was covered with wildflowers. It was like a botanical garden. I was picking wildflowers with the intention of covering Sharon’s grave with them when I came out of the mountains the following day. As I was picking them I kept saying ”These are for You Baby.” I would instantly collapse into a weeping sobbing heap remembering all the lies I told her about my drug use and whereabouts. I was begging Sharon and begging God to forgive me for who and what I had become. I would recover and resume picking flowers again only to say “These are for you Baby” and Thud… I would collapse into a weeping, sobbing mess again… and again… and again. I finally had a feeling come over me that I was supposed to write something to or for Sharon so I gathered up my wildflowers and returned to my camp and started writing this letter to her. When I wrote the first line I looked up and saw what I call an angel. Honestly, I don’t know what it… He… She was but it was glowing and it looked like it had arms outstretched toward me. It just drifted away until it was out of sight. What I do know is that something Supernatural happened to me that day.

On the anniversary of Sharon’s Death I published what I started writing that day as a Tribute to her in local Obituaries.

“Baby, As long as I live, I will never forget your innocence of a child’s glee smile. It was Christmas time, several years ago and you were watching the Santa Clause you had just bought. I was setting behind you watching this five foot Santa articulating and singing thinking to myself: “I wonder how much this stupid contraption cost?” When you suddenly turned around and looked at me with that smile. That smile of enraptured delight just emanating from your expression. In my lifetime I have never seen such innocence and transparent childlike glee before. Not even close! It was like someone had opened up the window of your soul and right then and right there I saw your heart. That your heart was a true heart. A pure and simple and innocent heart and of more value than anything in this world.

I’m sorry I was a fool. I am so very sorry Baby. Seldom. Very seldom does a day go by that I dont break down and cry when I think of you. The way you were/are. I will never forgive myself for the things I did that hurt such a gentle soul. You were always so kind and generous and loving. It was something that just came so natural to you, like water flowing, like the sun shining, like clouds drifting. Even now I feel your love affecting and influencing my life, my health, my everything. I ALWAYS feel your gentle nudge in my heart. I will NEVER forget your kindness to me. Like the way you took your “storage” room and made it into a “Kevin” room. You made every little detail to the way you thought it would bring a “feel at home” and “make Kevin feel welcome here” essence about it and it did. I want you to know this. Like every endeavor you started you finished with a loving and caring touch. Like Jake’s “dog cabin” you built. With a front porch, breezeway, insulated with an electric heater and two double pane windows so Jake could look out. It was complete with a cedar shake roof and a weather vane on top. Not that Jake ever even once slept in it because you would say: “Tobyyyy Kitty, Jakeyyy, time go bed.” And Jake would instantly climb off the couch and head for the waterbed. I will NEVER forget all the love you showered on me, Jake and Kitty Toby. On EVERYONE Who’s life you touched you imparted a gracious essence of “you”. Like all the help you gave your Mom and Dad, Windy, Barb, Izzy, Jean and everyone else. Like the way you had Christmas and Birthday presents bought and made two and three years ahead of time for many of us. If a person or any creature was Sharon McCarthy Sterling’s Friend, they truly had a friend. A friend in deed. A friend in truth. I love you Baby. I know that God took you because one such as you has an intrinsic value and you will apply yourself to good works in God’s Kingdom, for His Eternal Purpose and for His Glory. I Miss you Baby. I will never forget you Sharon and I will never stop loving you. I long for the day I see you again, and I know I will, and when I do, if you don’t have a hammer or a saw or a paintbrush or a gardening trowel in your hand, I KNOW you will have that same smile of innocent childlike delight glowing on your face.

Luv, Me

“Jesus said unto her “I Am the resurrection and the life. He that believes in Me, though he were dead, yet shall he live and he who lives and believes in Me shall never die. Do you believe this?” John 11:25 -26

There is a lot more to this that words just get in the way of expressing. How in living and in dying, Sharon has helped turn and continues to turn my life around. “Except a grain of wheat falls into the ground and dies it abides alone. But if it falls into the ground and dies it brings forth much fruit. It’s a debt I cannot repay. It’s about how “the blinding light of God’s Grace can come breaking through with a sweetness that’s only tasted by the forgiven and redeemed.” If you or someone you love is traveling along that same dark and desperate path of drug addiction and sin that I once travelled, perhaps I can point you to Someone Who can and will help you. Someone doesn’t have to die to deliver you from Satan’s hand. Someone already has. I would feel and truly be blessed if I could humbly point you to that Someone. His Name is Jesus.”

On Memorial Day, two years ago I stood by Sharon’s grave and I asked God if it was wrong of me to have my conviction that she gave up her life for mine. Several minutes later a friend in Mississippi texted me a Bible verse “No greater love has anyone than this, to give up their life for their friend.”

On August 2018 While on a Pilgrimage to the Sharon Camp where I encountered God in 2006 I recorded this event:

“At sunset yesterday I picked a bunch of wildflowers and took them to the Sharon tree. I spent some time there praying and talking to Sharon and God.

Earlier, I asked God something I don’t recall ever asking Him before. If I could have some sort of a special visit with Sharon. I wondered if such a request was proper or even admissible, or perhaps what it even meant and why I was asking it? I didn’t know it would play out quite like this.

I told Sharon that largely because of her story I’ve pleaded for the lives of thousands of children. That every time I plead for a child not to be aborted, her child that was aborted did not die in vain. That every time I point post abortive women to God’s mercy, forgiveness and healing that it honors her and that her broken heart was not in vain. I didn’t understand why, but I found myself asking her if she greets these aborted children in heaven and if they are now her friends there? I then had the clearest visual of Sharon, surrounded by beautiful children, full of joy, walking through a beautiful meadow, she was beaming, looking down at them and they were all skipping and dancing looking up at her.

A few minutes later I remembered something that happened a couple years back. It was first thing in the morning and I picked up my Bible to start reading it. Normally I do my prayer time first so I laid my Bible aside. As I did I sensed the Holy Spirit say very clearly. “When you get done with your prayers I have a special Word from the Scriptures for you.” When I finished my prayer time and picked up my Bible the first Verse I laid eyes on was Isaiah 65:10 “Sharon shall be a fold of flocks”

I will never forget the way Sharon was sobbing the day she told me about her abortion. She was crying uncontrollably when she told me that she had always just wanted to be a mother.

I feel that we are somehow “In this Together!”

“Sharon shall be a fold of flocks.” Isaiah 65:10

We have a Strange and Merciful and Magnificent and Beautiful God!!!!

I’M CATHOLIC. NOW WHAT? By Shaun McAfee – a book review by Deacon Marty McIndoe

I’M CATHOLIC.  NOW WHAT?   By Shaun McAfee – a book review by Deacon Marty McIndoe

Shaun McAfee, founder of EpicPew.com, blogger at National Catholic Register, contributor to Catholic Answers Magazine and many other Catholic resources has written a new book published by Our Sunday Visitor.  Personally I think that this is the best book he has written; and I really enjoyed his other books.  When I first saw the pre-publication announcement for this book, I immediately put in an order for it.  The title and description led me to believe that this book would be a great resource for my parish RCIA program.  I have been involved in the RCIA (Rite of Christian Initiation of Adults) program for many years and know that those who have gone through it need a really good resource book to continue their journey after the time in the program has finished.  After reading this book I not only realized that the book is perfect for that, but that the book is perfect for all Catholics on their journey of living out the beauty of the Catholic faith.

The author of this book is a convert and has gone through the RCIA process to become a Catholic.  How I wish that all of the people who go through RCIA become as good a Catholic as Shaun and his wife have become.  Shaun’s overall knowledge of the Catholic faith and Catholic Theology (he has a graduate degree from Holy Apostles College) is amazing.  The way he lives out that faith with his wife and family is even more amazing.  Faith is made to be put in to action and Shaun certainly does that.  I have followed Shaun and his family on Facebook for almost six years and although I have never met him in person, I see the faith filled life that he leads.  That faith filled life pours over in to this book.  Shaun tells us all the things we need to know to be a good Catholic and he gives us personal examples of how to be a good Catholic.

This 335 page book consists of 100 chapters that give us a lot of information on the Catholic Church and why we do the things that we do.  I find it very refreshing that he takes the times to not only tell us the things that we should be doing to be a good Catholic, but also tells us why we do those things.  He often refers to the Holy Scriptures as well as the Catechism of the Catholic Church.  He also uses stories from the early church Fathers and the Saints to explain.   Besides that, he gives us plenty of personal examples from his own life.  He covers just about everything that you can think of that speaks of Catholicism.  He not only covers different topics but also gives us things to do.  For example, not only do we learn about Baptism, but he also gives us ideas on how to celebrate our Baptism day.  He talks to us about the priesthood and then encourages us to invite a priest over for dinner.

Shaun’s section on BEING A MODERN CATHOLIC has so much richness to it when discussing evil, relativism (a must read), marriage, sexuality, abortion, euthanasia, immigration, gossiping, giving, and consumerism.  His discussion of the current sex abuse scandal and cover up is enlightening.  He deals with all of the current issues in the Church today.  His way of facing these issues clearly shows the HOPE that we as Catholics are called to have.  Shaun ends his book with a section on EVANGELIZATION: IT’S FOR EVERYONE.  The chapters in this section remind us of our calling as Catholics to share the Good News that we have received.  He explains the “New Evangelization” and encourages us to reach out to those around us, especially to our children.

I highly recommend that ALL Catholics read this book.  The book covers serious subjects but is very easy to read.  It is informative as well as interesting.  It is a wealth of information on the Catholic faith.  This book is not only for those who have just recently come in to the Church, although it is great for them, but it is for all of us on our journey towards Jesus in His Church.  We can all benefit from the explanations and the suggestions that Shaun makes in this book.  As I write this, we are approaching the LENTEN season.  I highly suggest that every Catholic get this book and read it and study it and live it out for Lent.  It might be the best thing that you ever did for Lent.

Women and the Power of God Part III – Powerful Women Saints – by Deacon Marty McIndoe

WOMEN AND THE POWER OF GOD – by Deacon Marty McIndoe

In Part 1 of this three part series, we dealt with some of the women of the Hebrew Scriptures (Old Testament) and how God used them in building up His Kingdom.   In Part 2 we looked at some of the women of the New Testament.  This third part will look at some of our women Saints and how God used their strength and courage to continue to build up His Kingdom.  As was the case in both Parts 1 and 2, this is by no means a complete list, but includes some that I personally feel should be mentioned.

Part 3 – Powerful Women Saints:

1.  St. Helena:  Saint Helena was born in to a poor and simple Roman family in Asia Minor in the mid 200’s.  Somehow she married in to a higher class Roman family when she married Constantius Chlorus.   In 274 she gave birth to Constantine and in 292 her husband, Constantius became co-regent of the West.  Shortly after that, her husband divorced her to marry the Emperor’s step daughter.   When her husband died in 308, her son Constantine became Emperor and moved her in to a place of prominence in the Roman government.  She became an Empress.

Constantine’s conversion to Christianity greatly influenced his mother and she became a good Christian.  Constantine asked his mother to find Christian relics and so in 328 she traveled to the Holy Lands.  Through contact with the local bishops there she was able to locate many Christian relics and Holy Places.  When she located the Holy places, she had large Churches built over them.  She often replaced earlier Christian structures.  In the year 130 the current Roman Emperor built a Temple to Venus over the site of Jesus’ crucifixion in order to keep Christians from worshiping there.  Helena tore down that temple and did excavations to find the original location.  In doing so she uncovered the three crosses that the early Christians venerated.  Not knowing which cross was the one Jesus died on, she had a woman who was near death brought to all three.  When she touched the first cross, nothing happened.  The same occurred on the second cross.  When she touched the third cross the woman was miraculously and immediately healed.  She found the true cross of Jesus.

Helena had a large Church, the Church of the Holy Sepulcher built over that place.  She had large columns brought in from Rome that can still be seen to this day.  Helena also had churches built over the other Holy places including the Church of the Nativity in Bethlehem and the Church of the Ascension on the Mount of Olives.  Many of the Holy Places we visit today had churches built there by St. Helena.  She brought back to Rome many relics, including the True Cross.  Not only did she do this, but she is noted for helping the poor and the destitute.   She was a devout servant of God and true Christian who helped spread the Good News throughout the world.  She was a woman born in to a poor family who rose to be Empress of the Roman Empire.  She also, through a lot of hard work, re-discovered the Holy places of the Holy Lands.  Because she built large Churches over these, we can still visit these Holy places today.

2.  St. Monica:   Saint Monica is known most for her persevering in prayer.  For thirty years she prayed for her wayward son, Augustine to leave his wicked lifestyle and to become a Christian.  Not only did he become a Christian, he became one of the greatest Saints ever known.   Monica was born in 331 in Tagaste (modern day Algeria).  When she was young she was married off to a Roman pagan, Patricius.  Her husband had a violent temper.   To make things even worse, his mother lived with them and she too had a violent temper.  This caused a great deal of stress to Monica.  Monica was a good Christian but her husband would not allow their three children to be baptized.   For years she prayed for her husband and her mother in law to become Christian.  Finally about one year before her husband’s death, both became Christian.  Two of Monica’s children, Perpetua and Navigius entered the religious life, but Augustine preferred a life of drinking and laziness.   Monica sent Augustine off to school in Carthage.  There he became a Manichaean, a non-Christian religion that saw things as light or darkness.  When Augustine shared this with Monica she became so upset at him that she kicked him out of the house.  Sometime later, Monica had a vision that led her to reconcile with Augustine.   She continued to pray for his conversion but Augustine seemed to enjoy the drinking and loose life more.  Monica did not give up praying for him or trying to convince him.  She followed him to Rome and then Milan where she found the Bishop Ambrose.  St. Ambrose helped her in convincing Augustine of the trueness of Christianity.  Finally, after many years of prayers, Augustine became a Christian.  He was baptized in the Church of St. John the Baptist in Milan.  After his baptism he and Monica planned to travel together to Africa to draw more people to Christ.  She died before that could be realized.  St. Augustine shares that when Monica was close to death she told him, “Son, nothing in this world now affords me delight. I do not know what there is now left for me to do or why I am still here, all my hopes in this world being now fulfilled.”  Her perseverance had won for the Church one of the greatest and brightest Saints it has ever known.

3.  St. Adelaide of Burgundy:  St. Adelaide was born a princess in 931 in Burgundy in Italy.  Even though she was a princess, she had a difficult life.  Her father died when she was only six.  When she was only 15 or 16 she was married to Lothair, the King of Italy.  Her life as a queen was difficult too.  She became a widow at the age of 18 and her Kingdom was taken over by Berengar of Ivrea and she was thrown in to prison.  Berengar wanted to have her marry his son, but Adelaide wanted nothing to do with that.  She suffered greatly in prison but knew that she had to escape.  Somehow she found the strength to escape and when heading north to Germany she found the Emperor Otho I who the Pope had sent to rescue her.  He soon became her second husband and together they were able to recapture the Kingdom of Italy that she had lost.   Pope John XII crowned them both rulers of the Holy Roman Empire in 952.  In 973 she became widowed again and her son Otto II became regent.  At this point in her life Adelaide spent most of her time in building many monasteries and churches and helping the poor.  This kind heartened and brave woman is the patron of people with second marriages and widows.

4.  St. Clare of Assisi and  5.  St. Agnes of Assisi:  St. Clare was born in 1194 to a very wealthy Italian Count.  She was known as a very beautiful girl.  As a young girl Clare dedicated herself to prayer.  When she was 18 years old she heard St. Francis of Assisi preach and went up to him asking that he help her to grow closer to God and to become more Christ like.  On Palm Sunday in 1212 she left her family and went to the chapel of Porziuncula to meet St. Francis.  At that chapel her hair was cut off and she was given a plain robe and veil and sent to the Benedictine nuns of San Paulo for formation as a nun.  Her father was furious and tried to get her to return home but she refused.  She told him that she would have no other husband than Jesus Christ.  She desired solitude to be with Jesus.  In order to give her even more solitude, Francis moved her to the Benedictine nuns of San Paulo monastery. 

St. Clare had a sister named Catarina.  Catarina also wanted a life with Christ and solitude that she could not find at home.  She joined St. Clare at this new monastery.  The two sisters remained there until a home could be built for them next to the church at San Damiano near Assisi.  This made their father even angrier and he sent a contingent to bring her back home by force.  Because of the prayers of St. Clare, miracles occurred that made it impossible to do that.  When a sword was drawn to strike Catarina, miraculously the man’s arm went limp and he couldn’t wield the sword.  Then they tried to pick up Catarina (now called Agnes because Francis named her that due to her being gentle as a lamb) she miraculously became too heavy for the men to pick up.  They then gave up and left.  Francis immediately welcomed her in and she too was put in to formation.

When the home at San Damiano was completed, both St. Clare and St. Agnes went there.  There they lived a simple life eating no meat, wearing no shoes and lived in a poor house.  They maintained silence most of the time.  Their lives consisted of prayer and manual labor.  Soon other women from Assisi joined them there and they lived according to rules of St. Francis forming the Second Order and were known as Poor Clares but officially were the “Order of Poor Ladies of San Damiano.”  St. Francis initially  was their director.  In 1216 he made St. Clare the abbess.   Later, in 1219 St. Francis made St. Agnes an abbess and sent her to Monticello near Florence.

We have some of the letters that the two sisters sent to each other.  They reflect their love for each other, for Jesus, for the Poor Clares and St. Francis.  It should be noted that Clare and Agnes had to stand up to the current Church leaders who wanted to impose upon them the rule of St. Benedict.   They stood their ground and followed St. Francis’ rule.  They also had to stand up against Muslim invaders.  In 1240 Muslims were invading the whole area around Assisi.  St. Clare, although quite sick, prayed hard to repel them and took the Eucharist and with the sisters behind her commanded them to go away.  Miraculously they obeyed.  St. Clare knew that the power of prayer and the Eucharist could stand up to these invaders.

Clare had drawn up a rule for her sisters and in 1253 Pope Innocent IV declared Clare’s rule would serve as the governing rule for Clare’s Order of Poor Ladies.  Two days later Clare died, with Agnes at her side.  She was declared a Saint two years later.  St. Agnes died three months after St. Clare.   These two women went from riches to rags, but helped to change the face of the Church.

6.  St. Joan of Arc:  Joan of Arc was born in 1412 to a poor farming family.  From her earliest childhood she loved God and was often seen in prayer.  She also loved the poor.  Around the age of 13 she started hearing voices accompanied by flashes of light.  Gradually she recognized figures who she described as Michael the Archangel, St. Margaret, St. Catherine and other Saints and angels.  These voices seemed to be leading her to go to the aid of the King,   At first she doubted these voices, but in May 1428, when she was 16 years old, she knew that they were real and that she had to do what they said.   They directed her to King Charles’ military commander Robert Baudricourt.  He was quite rude to her and said to the cousin who accompanied her: “Take her home to her father and give her a good whipping.”  The war continued on and King Charles and his supporters thought that defeat was imminent.  The voices continued to persuade Joan to go but she resisted saying, “I am a poor girl; I do not know how to ride or fight.” The voices only reiterated: “It is God who commands it.”  At that, she decided that she must go.  She went back to Baudricourt who remained skeptical.  However, her perseverance and her descriptions of battles that were later confirmed caused him to send her to the King.  Joan went to see the king dressed in male clothes.  This was probably to protect her from the soldiers along the way.

When Joan came in to the King’s presence, something interesting happened.  The King was wearing a disguise to test her and was among many other men.  Immediately, without ever having met the King before, she went to him and saluted him.   The King’s inner court thought Joan was crazy and advised the King to have nothing to do with her.  However, the voices revealed to Joan a secret that only the King knew about (probably concerning his birth) and when she told him he started to believe in her mission.  However, to be sure, he had her undergo a trial headed by bishops, doctors and theologians.  Joan’s  faith, simplicity and honesty convinced the trial committee that she was indeed of sound mind and faith and recommended that she be allowed to continue with further examination of her actions.  She returned to King Charles who gave her a sword as she prepared a campaign for fighting.  However the voices told her to have the King get a sword that was buried behind the altar in a nearby Church.  That sword was found exactly where the voices said.  She also had the King make up a shield with the name of Jesus and Mary on it as well as a picture of the Father and angels.  Interestingly the King received a report, before the battle saying “that she would save Orléans and would compel the English to raise the siege, that she herself in a battle before Orléans would be wounded by a shaft but would not die of it, and that the King, in the course of the coming summer, would be crowned at Reims, together with other things which the King keeps secret.”

Before leading the battle, Joan told the King of England to give up.  Of course, he didn’t and battle ensued.  Joan led the battle and even though many of her commanders scoffed at her and didn’t always do what she said, the battle was won.  Joan was wounded by an arrow in the battles just as the letter said that was written 8 days prior to the campaign.  King Charles was also crowned at Reims and the English left, as the letter said.  In a battle about a year later, Joan was captured by a follower of John of Luxemburg.  He then sold her to the English for a large amount of money.  They couldn’t kill her for winning against them, so they decided to try her as a witch.  The Bishop of Beauvais was an unscrupulous and ambitious man who was a tool of the English.  The examination trial seemed quite unfair but Joan continued to show her love of God.  She was finally found to be a witch and heretic and was burned.  Her ashes were thrown in to the Seine River.  Twenty four years later a revision of the trial was made.  The appellate court and the Pope found that injustice was made by the first examination and that it was declared illegal.    Her beatification cause was begun in 1869 and she was declared a Saint in 1920.  This very young holy woman listened to God no matter what it cost her.  She fought harder that most men could and never gave up, no matter how badly she was treated.

7.  St. Elizabeth Ann Seaton:  Elizabeth Ann Seton was the first native born American to become a Saint.  She was born just two years before the American Revolution to a wealthy New York City family.  The family was Episcopalian.  Elizabeth was a bright girl and prolific reader.  She especially found comfort in the reading the bible.  In 1794 she married a wealthy businessman, William Seton.   The first couple of years of their marriage were wonderful but when William’s  father died the couple had to take in William’s seven younger half brothers and sisters.  They also had to take over running the father’s import business.  William’s health started to fail as did his business.  He had to declare bankruptcy.  His health was deteriorating so bad that they felt that a move to Italy would help.  William had business friends there that they stayed with.

Unfortunately William died of tuberculosis while in Italy.  Elizabeth was very moved by the Catholic faith of the family that she lived with in Italy.  She found that their love of the Eucharist helped her to better understand the true presence of Jesus.  Also, since Elizabeth’s mother had died when she was young, their devotion to Mary helped satisfy her need for a mother.  Elizabeth converted to Catholicism and headed back to the United States.  Since she was a widow with many children to feed, she opened a school to help support them.  The first school was all Protestants and when the parents had heard that Elizabeth had converted to Catholicism, they withdrew their children from school.   Fortunately, Elizabeth met a priest who encouraged her to open up a school for Catholic children in Emmetsburg, Maryland.  This is seen as the beginning of Catholic education in the United States.  Shortly after opening the school, Elizabeth founded an order of Catholic women to help in educating poor children.  This was the first congregation of religious sisters to be formed in the United States.  They are known as the Sisters of Charity and have grown tremendously throughout the United States, Canada and the Philippines.

St. Elizabeth Ann Seton was a hard working woman who suffered from the deaths of many loved ones.  Her faith continued to allow her to make a tremendous change to the Catholic faith in the United States.  Pope Paul VI canonized Mother Seton on September 14, 1975, in a ceremony in St. Peter’s Square.  In his words, “Elizabeth Ann Seton is a saint. St. Elizabeth Ann Seton is an American. All of us say this with special joy, and with the intention of honoring the land and the nation from which she sprang forth as the first flower in the calendar of the saints. Elizabeth Ann Seton was wholly American! Rejoice for your glorious daughter. Be proud of her. And know how to preserve her fruitful heritage.”  NOTE:  if you would like to hear about how Elizabeth Ann Seton personally changed my family go to:  http://deaconmarty.com/saint-elizabeth-ann-seton-and-how-she-personally-brought-a-miracle-to-my-family-by-deacon-marty-mcindoe/

8.  St. Marianne Cope:  St. Marianne was born in Germany in 1838 but spent most of her life in Hawaii ministering to lepers.  She is often known as Saint Marianne of Moloka’i.    One year after she was born her family moved to the United States.  She attended a Catholic parish school until the eighth grade when her father became an invalid and she had to leave school to go to work and help support her family.  When her father died, and her siblings became mature she quit her factory job and became a novitiate of the Sisters of the Third Order Regular of Saint Francis based in Syracuse, New York.  She became a teacher and later principal of a school that helped immigrant children.  She also helped in setting up the first two Catholic hospitals in central New York.  In 1883 she became the Superior General of her Congregation.   Shortly after, she received a letter from King Kalakaua of Hawaii asking for aid in treating leper patients who were isolated on the island of Moloka’i.  The King had already been declined by more than 50 other religious institutes.  St. Marianne went with six sisters arriving on November 8,1883.  She originally managed a hospital on the island of O’ahu, where victims of leprosy were sent for triage.  The next year, Mother Marianne helped establish the Malulani hospital on the island of Maui.  The government had appointed an administrator for the hospital on O’ahu when Mother Marianne left.  However, she heard news of his abuse and returned to O’ahu and demanded that the government fire him.  They did and put her in charge.  Mother Marianne continued to help the leper patients, including clergy who had contracted the disease.  She continued working, even when she was in a wheel chair.  Miraculously, the disease never came to her.

9.  St, Katherine Drexel:  St. Katherine is the second native born American to become a Saint.  She was born in 1858 to a wealthy banker.  Her mother died shortly after her birth but her father remarried and Katherine grew up in a home that was both financially and spiritually endowed.  She received a private education and travelled throughout the United States and Europe.  The family was very devout in their faith and an excellent example to Katherine.    Her father prayed 30 minutes each evening and on weekends they opened their home to help care for the poor.  After seeing her step-mother suffer with cancer for three years, Katherine’s life took a significant turn.  She developed a passionate love for God and for neighbor.  She especially felt called to help black and native Americans.

Katherine’s father passed away about a year after his wife’s death.  He had a substantial estate of over 15 million dollars  and he gave a considerable amount to charities and left the rest to his three daughters.  The daughters worked together to try to help Indian missions.  In 1887 they had an audience with Pope Leo XIII and asked that missionaries be sent to the Indians.  Pope Leo XIII looked directly at Katherine and asked her to be a missionary.  When she arrived home she met with her spiritual advisor and decided to give her life, and her money, to God as a nun and missionary.  She started a religious order called  “Sisters of the Blessed Sacrament for Indians and Colored” and spent the rest of her life serving blacks and native Americans.  She worked hard to found schools throughout the west to educate Native Americans.  She even founded Xavier University in New Orleans, the first Catholic University in the United States for African-Americans.  She spent her fortune on the blacks and Native Americans.  She also gave fully of herself in helping them until she finally had a serious heart attack at the age of 77.  She lived until the age of 96 praying for her missions and writing.  By the time of her death, she had more than 500 Sisters teaching in 63 schools throughout the country and she established 50 missions for Native Americans in 16 different states.  This one woman changed the face of America for the better.

10.   Servant of God Dorothy Day:  Although she isn’t a Saint yet, she is on her way.  Dorothy Day is a great example of a woman who was a sinner, but turned toward being a Saint.  Her love of the poor, and her love of God make her an outstanding woman of God’s power.  Cardinal Timothy M. Dolan calls her “a Saint for our times”.   Dorothy Day started out being someone quite outside the Catholic faith.  She described herself as having an attraction to the radical life among  anarchists, socialists and communists.  She was arrested on many occasions and spent time in jail.  She drank heavily and had an abortion and had an illegitimate child.  This isn’t what usually makes up a Saints life.  However, all of these ups and downs helped her to think seriously about where she was headed.  The heartache that her abortion caused her helped her to become staunchly pro-life.   She was very moved by Francis Thompson’s “Hound of Heaven” and its description of the relentless pursuit of God towards man.  One day she found herself in the back of Saint Joseph’s Church on Sixth Avenue in New York City and found solace in watching the mass.

Dorothy had a daughter with a man that she lived with.  She said that the birth of her daughter connected her to the beauty of the Divine in a deeply personal way.  She wrote, “The final object of this love and gratitude is God”  She was moved to worship with others and even though the man she loved rejected religion she had her daughter baptized Catholic.  About six months later she too was baptized.   This ended her common law marriage.  About five years later, Peter Maurin, a French immigrant taught her about Catholic radicalism.  Together they founded the Catholic Worker Movement in 1933 and began publishing the Catholic Worker to promote their radical Catholic vision to oppose Communism.  They also opened a “House of Hospitality” to welcome everyone, especially the poor.  They focused on helping the poor.  Dorothy Day said, “The mystery of the poor is this:  That they are Jesus, and what you do for them you do for Him.  It is the only way of knowing and believing in our love”.   Dorothy Day was noted for seeing the beauty of God in everything and every person.   She truly was a Saint for our times.

11.  St. Faustina Kowalska:  St. Faustina was born in 1905 to a very poor but quite religious family.  She was the third of ten children.  When she was seven years old she attended an Eucharistic Adoration and immediately felt the call to become a nun.  When she finished her schooling at the age of 16 she wanted to enter a convent, but her parents wouldn’t allow her to.  Instead she cleaned houses to help support the family.  In 1924 she saw her first vision of Jesus who told her to go to Warsaw and join a convent.  She immediately packed her bags and left.  When in Warsaw she tried to enter several convents but was rejected because of her looks and her poverty.  Finally the Mother Superior of the Congregation of the Sisters of Our Lady of Mercy told her she could enter if she could pay for her own habit.  St. Faustina worked cleaning houses and finally had enough to pay for the habit.  She entered the convent in 1926 at 20 years old.  She worked primarily as a cook and traveled to several of the convents.  In 1931 she was visited by Jesus who told her that He was the “King of Divine Mercy”.  He asked her to become an apostle and secretary of God’s Mercy.  She said that she would.  Jesus also instructed her to have painted an image of her vision of him.  Since she didn’t paint she had to have a painter paint it based upon her description.  She was never fully happy with the way the painting came out.

Sister Faustina told her fellow sisters about her visions but they weren’t initially receptive to her.  She took some harassment because of them.   Sister Faustina told the priest spiritual advisor of her visions and calling.  He had her evaluated by a psychiatrist who found her in perfect mental health.  Eventually this priest saw the truth of her visions and the Divine Mercy apostolate and he was the first to preach about it at mass.  Fortunately Sister Faustina kept a diary that is still in existence today and makes for a great read.  Even though her health kept failing, she continued to do all that she could to spread the devotion to the Divine Mercy.  Unfortunately, due to several mistakes in translations and printings, some of her writings were seemed objectionable to the Church and the Divine Mercy apostolate was quieted for many years.  In 1965, Archbishop of Krakow, Karol Wojtyla (later Pope John Paul II) took an interest in the Divine Mercy and opened up an investigation into Sister Faustina and her writings and apostolate.   The Church formally approved the apostolate and began procedures for her canonization.  The apostolate of Divine Mercy spread and Sr. Faustina was made a Saint in 2000 and a Feast day for the Divine Mercy became part of the Church calendar.  This poor and sick little woman was chosen by God to become an Apostle of the Divine Mercy.

12.  Sr. Gianna Beretta Molla:  St. Gianna was born in Italy in 1922.  She was the tenth of thirteen children in her family.  As a young child Gianna loved her faith and loved learning about it.  She saw the need for prayer and she enjoyed life for all that it was.  In 1942 Gianna began studying to be a medical doctor.  She was a great student and a great practitioner of her faith. In college she joined the St. Vincent de Paul Society and worked with the elderly and the needy.  In 1949 she received her medical and surgical degree and within two years specialized in pediatrics at Milan Hospital.  She felt a very strong calling to mothers, babies, the elderly and the poor.  She became involved with Catholic Action and considered her practice of medicine a mission.  She wanted to join her brother, who was a priest, in Brazil by tending to the health of the poor women there.  Unfortunately, her health prevented her from doing so.   IN 1954, Gianna met Pietro Molla, an engineer who worked in her office.  They were married the following year.  Gianna considered marriage a precious gift and vocation.   She considered her marriage a gift from God and planned dedicated herself to “forming a truly Christian family.”  Gianna wrote to Pietro, “Love is the most beautiful sentiment that the Lord has put into the soul of men and women.” 

She gave birth to her first child, Pierluigi in 1956.  Her second child, Maria was born in 1957.  She had the third baby, Laura in 1959.  She loved being a mother and wife and worked hard to keep her family going along with her practice.  In 1961 Gianna became pregnant again with her fourth child.  Unfortunately near the end of her second month she had intense pain in her abdomen and they discovered that she had a tumor as well as the baby in her uterus.  The doctors recommended that she choose from three possibilities;   One, an abortion that would save her life and allow subsequent pregnancies, but take the life of the baby.  The second was a hysterectomy which would save her life but take the life of her baby and not allow any further pregnancies.  The third option was to take out the tumor which would save the life of her baby but might result in further complications for her.  She chose the third option which saved the baby’s life but put hers in danger.   She told the surgeons that her baby’s life must be saved at all costs, even if it cost her own life.    She said that her comfort was in having the baby and in her prayers and in putting her faith in to action.  They did what she asked.  She had the operation which removed the tumor but allowed the baby to continue to grow.  Gianna continued her pregnancy but with many complications.  Her faith gave her the strength to continue on as a mother and as a doctor.  Gianna told the doctors that they must save the life of her baby even if it meant she died.  She kept insisting, “save the baby”.  On April 21, 1962, Gianna Emanuela Molla was successfully delivered by Caesarean section.  One week later Gianna, the mother, died from septic peritonitis.

Gianna was beatified by Pope John Paul II on April 24, 1994, and officially canonized as a saint on May 16, 2004. Her husband and their children, including Gianna Emanuela, attended her canonization ceremony, making this the first time a husband witnessed his wife’s canonization.  Pope John Paul II said that Gianna was “a simple, but more than ever, significant messenger of divine love.”  The first pro-life Catholic health center in New York, the Gianna Center, was named after her.  In today’s world where abortion is rampant and often mothers have abortions because the timing is inconvenient, the story of Gianna and her love for life and for her children stands out as a beacon of light.

CONCLUSION:  God gave mankind a precious gift when he created us male and female, in His image.  Each sex brings its own flavor towards helping God in the building up of the Kingdom.  Too often the male has been seen as the strong sex, but looking back at how God has used women in the Scriptures and as Saints, we can’t help but to see how strong women are.  We are all called by God to help build up his Kingdom.  Let us answer that call with a resounding, “be it done to me according to thy will”.  Men and women work together in building God’s Kingdom.  After all, we are His children and brother and sister to each other.  There is so much work to do.  We must do it together and celebrate what God can accomplish through our strengths and our weaknesses.  With God all things are possible.

Unplanned: A film about Love, Mercy, and Forgiveness By Tom Perna

Ever since we started hearing about the film on how Abby Johnson left the abortion industry, my wife and I have been talking about seeing it. I wasn’t completely positive what the theatre release was going to be for the film, but over the last week, my wife kept seeing that it was going to be in a theatre close to our home. At the beginning of the week, we decided to go see the film on Thursday night. Not knowing what to expect, we entered the theatre, watched the previews, and then, as the film began…our senses were shocked.

Without giving away too much of the film, one of the first scenes in the movie is a pivotal scene. It’s a scene that stays in your mind throughout the film, and it rocks you again as the storyline of the film catches back up with that scene. As I reflect on what we witnessed last night, I can see very clearly the scene and still feel the raw emotions that came pouring forth from my eyes and my heart. The last time I had tears in my eyes in the film this much was when I watched the Passion of the Christ. Tears poured from my eyes and down my cheeks for nearly ¾ of this film.

I found this film difficult at times to watch, but also realized that it must be seen by as many people as possible on both sides of this debated subject. The film is truly a testimony of love, mercy and forgiveness. Although I could put into words exactly what I mean by those three points, it would be better if you went and saw the film yourself. I can tell you that my wife and I held hands nearly the entire film, especially in the scenes that are truly hard to endure. Thoughts of my unborn child growing in my wife’s womb flooded my mind different times in the film and I often looked over at my wife and her bump/belly.

As a Catholic man, who is now a husband, and soon-to-be father, one point that kept coming back to me (and my wife and I talked about it in the car on the way home) was the unshakable support and love that Abby’s husband gave to her, even loving her and marrying her when they had opposing views on Abortion. I personally know Doug, and although I don’t know him incredibly well, what I do know of him was reflected in this film perfectly. He is the unshakable foundation of his family and rock that always has Abby’s back.

I highly encourage you to see the film this weekend. Opening weekends and the first week for films are important because it will determine if the film will remain in the theaters on a long-term basis. If you have children that are 17 years of age and under and you are hesitant to bring them to this film, let me say that the “R-Rating” this film was given is a farce. I have seen more graphic images in PG-13 films than what is in this one. Furthermore, there are more graphic images of aborted babies online than in this film.

If you have the means to do so, I would also encourage you to support 40 Days For Life and Abby’s organization, And Then There Were None. Get involved with your local Pro-Life activities and pray, pray, pray for end to Abortion.

From Selling Abortions to Sidewalk Counseling – by Doug Johnson

From Selling Abortions To Sidewalk Counseling – by Doug Johnson

For the entire 8 years my wife was involved with Planned Parenthood, her primary job was to sell an abortion to every pregnant woman who walked into the clinic. Even as a volunteer, Abby’s job was to make women feel safe and comfortable as they walked through the doors of Planned Parenthood for their abortion. No matter what her title was, the push was always for abortion, because that is where the money is. When she was an escort, get them in the door. When she was working the front counter, smile, tell them the protesters are nuts, and get the money. When she was in charge of community outreach, Abby was passing out condoms to coeds, giving “sex ed” talks that resulted in new customers, and doing everything she could to normalize abortion. Finally, when she became the clinic director, here’s your abortion quota, Abby!!!

Abby’s first priority and passion project when she left the abortion industry was praying outside of clinics and sidewalk counseling. It wasn’t speaking or writing a book. It wasn’t her movie or starting a ministry to help other clinic workers leave the abortion industry. All that came later. What really motivated her was the opportunity to come face to face with women and sharing the truth about abortion. To tell them what really happens behind the doors of an abortion clinic. She racked up a lot of hours in that first year. I’m not sure why, but it was well over a year before I ever even got to see her live and in action outside of a clinic. The first time I saw Abby get a save… I was in awe. I was inspired. I couldn’t have prepared for how powerful that moment would be and the impact it would have on me supporting my wife moving forward.

It was going to be a normal Saturday with my wife. We were headed to the Austin area in Texas for some reason or another. Who knows? Probably to see friends and maybe do some house hunting. Before we could get to the fun stuff, we needed to stop and drop some materials off with volunteers outside of the Whole Women’s Health in Austin. There were a couple of familiar faces outside the clinic praying, and they told Abby that they were performing abortions that day. Whelp, our leisurely day was going to have to take a pause. It was go time for Abby.

“Ok. Then we are staying until the last customer leaves.”

Now, I had zero experience in this department. I could pray, but I wasn’t about to try my hand at sidewalk counseling. I stood back by the road and watched Abby go to work. The CONFIDENCE she had to call out to everyone that walked in? I was blown away. She knew what to say, how to say it, and how to respond to anything that came her way. I mean, I have always known Abby is a bad-ass, but this was just a cool moment.

We had only been there for about 30 minutes when a couple pulled into the lot and parked right behind the fence facing the sidewalk. A woman stepped out of the passenger side and made a b-line for the building. Her head down and she was clinching her purse. My wife didn’t have an opportunity to say anything to her because just as she was scurrying off, her husband was pointing a finger at us and the first words out of his mouth where…

“You know what? You guys are assholes! You are wasting you’re time and you can’t change my mind!!” 

At first, I took this as a personal affront to my wife. How dare this dude address my wife and the other women like that?! Fortunately, I had seen my bride handle confrontation before.  Still,  I positioned myself just close enough to hear the conversation, but not close enough to escalate things. Besides, I could tell that he was only being protective of his wife. I’m sure he told his wife to hurry in while he distracted us. He didn’t actually want to get into a fight with anyone. Either way, if he was just running interference, he chose the wrong gal to wag his finger at, because it was Abby’s turn to talk.

I don’t remember any exact words. I don’t even remember if Abby started with her experiences in the abortion industry, or if she asked if that was his wife, or if she asked him why he automatically assumed that she’s an “asshole.” She may have started out asking what year his Camero was.  My memory picks up somewhere in the middle. Abby managed to keep him engaged in idle conversation and it didn’t take long for his aggressive tone to fade. I remember him saying that the woman was his wife, this wasn’t their first abortion, and that he was a professional MMA fighter. Then I remember Abby asking him about the medallions he wore around his neck. They were saints and they were given to him by his aunt. Abby asked him what his aunt would think about him being here for an abortion, and he said she would be pretty disappointed. I’ll never forget the next thing that came out of his mouth…

“I actually DON’T want her to have an abortion, but it’s up to her, right?” 

In my brain, there were thousands of voices yelling, NO!!! It is not just up to her!!! That is your wife and child in there. That is your family. If you’re a fighter, then why don’t you go in there and fight for your family. I bet she is in there waiting for you to man up and lead. Tell her you want a family. Tell her you’re committed . Just say something. Anything!! Don’t just leave her alone to figure this out.

Abby handled it much better than I would have. She asked him if he had told her about his objection to her getting an abortion. He said, no. Abby told him, “You need to share your feelings with her. She is your WIFE and this is a conversation you need to have before it’s too late. Go be her husband. She needs you.

They didn’t say much more before he went in to talk to his wife. About an hour later, they walked out holding hands and looking very at ease. She still didn’t say anything to us, but she smiled at Abby as she got into the car. He looked like he was going to get into the car without saying anything, but he paused. He told us that they were going to lunch and they weren’t coming back. They had decided AGAINST getting an abortion. Abby just smiled and congratulated them. He nodded at us and got in the car. They drove away, and we never saw them again.

I was in such awe of what I had just seen. My wife, a woman that had spent so many years selling abortions had just saved a life. So this is what conversion and change of heart looks like. So this is what it looks like when God recruits you and you accept. You get to save lives.

On a side note: I HATE that even in an equal partnership, men feel silenced about abortion. I guess that’s why I remember this story so well. Men should have a say on the issue of abortion. Not just pro-abortion men. Not just anti-abortion men. ALL MEN!!! Maybe if we stepped up our game, women would feel more supported and never even consider abortion if they knew we were committed. I believe women should lead the conversation, but that doesn’t exclude men in their responsibilities regarding families and abortion.

Check out Doug’s blog at: https://www.dougontap.com/

10 Quotes from Saint Elizabeth Ann Seton by Tom Perna

Today (originally published Jan 4th) is the memorial of Saint Elizabeth Ann Seton, the first Native born American saint of the Catholic Church. She was born in New York in the year 1774 to a wealthy and prosperous Episcopalian family. In 1794, she married a young successful man by the name of William Magee Seton. They would have 5 children together. Due to unforeseen circumstances, he lost his fortune and eventually his health. They traveled to Italy to find a cure for his physical ailments, but in the end, he died while living in Italy.

During her time in Italy, she became familiar with Catholicism through some friends and eventually made a Profession of Faith in the Catholic Church on March 14, 1805. Her family and friends back home were completely opposed to her becoming Catholic, but she persevered through it all. After returning home, she found herself in financial ruin because her family and friends shunned her decision to become Catholic.

After receiving an invitation from a priest, she established the first Catholic school in Baltimore in 1808. In 1809, she created a small community of religious sisters in Emmitsburg, Maryland. At first, they were known as the Sisters of St. Joseph, but eventually changed their name to the Daughters of Charity. From the moment, she became known as Mother Seton. Her small religious community grew exceptionally in 100 years going from Baltimore to New York, then to Cincinnati, Halifax, New Jersey, Greensburg, and St. Louis. From there, the community continued to spread West. They have been in my diocese, Phoenix, since 1933.

St. Elizabeth Ann Seton died on January 21, 1821 in Emmitsburg, Maryland.  She was beatified in 1963 by Pope St. John XXIII. On September 14, 1975, she was canonized by Pope St. Paul VI.

Below are 10 Quotes from the great American Catholic Saint known as Mother Seton –

1. Devotional Reading: “Give some time, if it is only half an hour in every day, to devotional reading, which is as necessary to the well ordering of the mind as the hand of the gardener is to prevent weeds destroying your favorite flowers.”

2. Faith, Hope, and Love: “Faith lifts the staggering soul on one side, Hope supports it on the other. Experience says it must be, and Love says let it be.”

3. Going to the Catholic Church: “I will go peaceably and firmly to the Catholic Church: for if Faith is so important to our salvation, I will seek it where true Faith first began, seek it among those who received it from God Himself.”

4. Heaven: “The gate of heaven is very low; only the humble can enter it.”

5. God’s will before our will: “’Thy will be done’ – What a comfort and support those four little words are to my soul. I have repeated them until they are softened to the sweetest harmony.”

6. Parental Advice: “If I had to advise parents, I should tell them to take great care about the people with whom their children associate…Much harm can result from bad company, and we are inclined by nature to follow what is worse than what is better.”

7. Penance: “Penance is the purifier of the soul.”

8. Suffering: “This is not a country for solitude and silence, but for warfare and crucifixion. You are not to stay in his silent agonies of the Garden at night, but go from post to pillar, to the very fastening of the Cross. If you suffer so much the better for our high journey above.”

9. Illness/Suffering: “I never experienced so keenly the presence of this beloved Lord as I have since I have been ill. It is as if I were seeing the good Jesus, Him, and His holy Mother, here, continually seated at my side, under a visible form, to console me, cheer me, and to encourage me throughout all the hours of my long and painful suffering.”

10. Serving God: “This union of my soul with God is my wealth in poverty and joy in deepest afflictions.

Saint Elizabeth Ann Seton…Pray for Us 

To read how St. Elizabeth Ann Seton gave my wife and I our miracle daughter, click here:  http://deaconmarty.com/saint-elizabeth-ann-seton-and-how-she-personally-brought-a-miracle-to-my-family-by-deacon-marty-mcindoe/

No Birthday to Celebrate by Deacon Marty McIndoe

Recently I saw a Gary Varvel cartoon depicting a multitude of children floating on a heavenly cloud with one saying to the other “I wish I could have celebrated a birthday”. In the cartoon there is another “cloud-baby” reading a newspaper with the headline ROE VS WADE now 35 (it is an old cartoon). The message was quite clear, the souls of all the aborted babies are in heaven, but they wish they had been given the opportunity to be born and enjoy all that our earthly lives enjoy, including birthday celebrations. This really hit me, especially with Right to Life Sunday coming this weekend. I find it difficult to comprehend how our Nation, whose Declaration of Independence says, “We hold these truths to be self-evident: that all men are created equal; that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable rights; that among these are life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness.” Our government is supposed to protect these rights for all of us. Yet, the current law of the land allows us to kill unborn babies. We kill almost 2,000 per day. This is a true holocaust whose numbers far exceed any holocaust that man has done in history. We don’t use the term “kill”, we use “abort”. It sounds better but is truly the same thing. Many abortions are pure torture for the “baby” but we use the term “fetus” or “grouping of cells” to sound better. Look at any ultrasound picture; you can see that it is a baby. The torture consists of pulling off arms and legs and crushing heads. So much for the unalienable right to LIFE.
I know that abortion is a complicated topic today. I also know that too often women are in a very sad situation in life and they feel compelled to do this. However, I also know that any good human being must know that killing a defenseless child is bad, and that is what we are doing. Yes a woman does have the right to her own body, but what about the right the unborn baby has to live? No one should have a right to kill another living human being, especially the most vulnerable. It used to be that the Democratic Party prided itself on caring for the poorest and most defenseless but now they are the champions of Abortion. What happened? Certainly it seems that finances come in to play. USA today published an article on Feb 26, 2018 entitled, If the NRA owns Republicans, Planned Parenthood owns Democrats. There is no doubt that Planned Parenthood gives incredible financial aid to the Democratic Party and to Democratic candidates. It gives none to Republican candidates but spends considerable money to stop Republican candidates. Planned Parenthood receives about 587 million (2014 figures) in tax money and in the last three election cycles Planned Parenthood advocacy and political arms, employees, and their families have spent over $38 million to elect or defeat candidates for federal office who decide how much taxpayers subsidize the nation’s largest abortion provider. They appear now to be spending about $30 million for this year’s midterm elections to support democrats. Matt Walsh of the Daily Wire even goes so far to say that Planned Parenthood launders money for the Democratic Party “The abortion conglomerate has been giving millions to Democrat campaigns and Democrat causes for decades. Meanwhile, they are given millions — 500 million, to be exact — in taxpayer dollars annually.” It would appear that money trumps over care for the poor and defenseless babies in the womb. I find this very sad.
To be perfectly frank, I do not like Planned Parenthood. I look to some of the things that its founder, Margaret Sanger has said about the workings of Planned Parenthood. She referred to blacks and other minorities as “…human weeds,’ ‘reckless breeders,’ ‘spawning… human beings who never should have been born.” Margaret Sanger, Pivot of Civilization. She also said, “We do not want word to go out that we want to exterminate the Negro population,” Woman’s Body, Woman’s Right: A Social History of Birth Control in America, by Linda Gordon. Planned Parenthood seems to be doing that now through abortion and birth control measures. Our society seems to be ignoring this terrible race discrimination. As Christians, we recognize that all people are equal in the eyes of God. We are all His children. Planned Parenthood is quickly eliminating God’s children, both black and white, but with a very unequal rate against blacks. This has to stop.
We have lost over 56,000,000 lives to abortion since the Supreme Court decision (compare this to 1,354,664 total deaths in ALL the wars we have fought since we became a nation). I can’t help but to wonder if we killed off the person who would have found a cure to cancer, or other terrible diseases. What if we lost another Beethoven, or Tolkien or……. We really do not know. In 1994 Mother Theresa was invited to speak at the National Prayer Breakfast at the White House. She said, “The greatest destroyer of peace today is abortion, because it is a war against the child, a direct killing of the innocent child, murder by the mother herself. And if we accept that a mother can kill even her own child, how can we tell other people not to kill one another? How do we persuade a woman not to have an abortion? As always, we must persuade her with love and we remind ourselves that love means to be willing to give until it hurts. Jesus gave even His life to love us. So, the mother who is thinking of abortion, should be helped to love, that is, to give until it hurts her plans, or her free time, to respect the life of her child. The father of that child, whoever he is, must also give until it hurts.
By abortion, the mother does not learn to love, but kills even her own child to solve her problems. And, by abortion, that father is told that he does not have to take any responsibility at all for the child he has brought into the world. The father is likely to put other women into the same trouble. So abortion just leads to more abortion. Any country that accepts abortion is not teaching its people to love, but to use any violence to get what they want. This is why the greatest destroyer of love and peace is abortion.” It is also said that Hillary Clinton asked her why there hasn’t been a woman President yet and Mother Teresa said that is probably because she was aborted.
I have a great deal of compassion for the woman who finds herself pregnant and feels that she just cannot give birth to the child. So often she is led, not always freely, to choose abortion. Once she chooses this she is often filled with guilt and remorse. In my ministry as a deacon, I have dealt with a considerable number of women in this situation. I will share one story that I shared in a previous article. One time, a woman that I knew, come up to me and asked me why I was always smiling and always so happy. I told her that it was because I believed in a God who loved me, gave me hope and forgave me. She said that she found it hard to believe in a God like that. She had lived a very difficult life and it was only recently that she had been able to come out of those difficulties. A few days after our initial encounter, she asked to speak to me in private. We talked for a while and she told me that she didn’t think that God could forgive her. I asked her why she thought that. She told me that she had an abortion when she was quite young and that it had plagued her with guilt ever since. She told me that she couldn’t forgive herself, so how could God forgive her? I felt really bad for this woman, and the pain that she had held on to for over twenty years. She had been away from the Church for quite some time, but was just now thinking of coming back. I asked her to speak to a priest about forgiveness and receiving the Sacrament of Reconciliation. I also hooked her up with a local organization that gave counseling to women who have had abortions. Fortunately, she took me up on my advice and responded well and the change in her gives new meaning to the phrase, “born again”. Unfortunately she is not the only woman who has come to me with the same guilt and remorse that having an abortion brings.
Too often woman are coerced in to abortion by boyfriends, husbands, fathers and mothers, friends etc. Too often this coercion is through threats of violence and black mail. I feel so bad for these women. They should be given other choices. For me, adoption is one that helps all involved. We have one daughter who we adopted. Her birth mother was only 17 and a senior in High School but because she had the support of her family, she chose to give birth to her child and give her up for adoption. I thank God for that because now I have a daughter (and three grandsons) who have brought me so much joy. It is imperative that our government and churches and social agencies work to help women who are pregnant and do not have the ability to keep their children. What seems like a quick and easy out, abortion, often leads to much pain and guilt for all of their lives.
Lastly, we really need to consider the unborn baby. The life that is there should have the right to live and experience all that life has to offer us, including celebrating birthdays. Abortion totally takes that away from them. Even in life situations where poverty and disease and handicaps seem to indicate that life will not be good, so many examples exist to show that children can excel no matter what. It is the mandate of society and its government to make sure that we all have that inalienable right to life. God has brought forth life and we should not take that away. We need to create a society where life is respected and we all work together to ensure that.